09, 07, 2016
how heavily this has weighed on my heart, for so long now. I’ve tried to suppress this desire to write about it because I still don’t know how to even put all these emotions I feel into coherent sentences – but I am going to try!
before I explain why these three words are weighing on me all the time these days, I wanted to give definitions:
relationship: the way in which two or more people or organizations regard and behave toward each other.
communion: the sharing or exchanging of intimate thoughts and feelings, especially when the exchange is on a mental or spiritual level.
intimacy: close familiarity or friendship; closeness; a private cozy atmosphere.
and they are weighing on me so heavily because 1.) I am having such a hard time finding them played out in people’s lives when I look around and 2.) I have a hard time seeing them played out in my own life when I look backwards.
these three concepts and actions are literally hard wired into our beings by our Maker, but I don’t really feel like people look at them as gifts anymore, if they ever even did. I feel like they are being viewed as inconveniences, wastes of energy, lame, gay, etc.
and I would just like to ask really quick: WHY?!
three of God’s best gifts, that need to be ultimately lived out and shared with Him daily, but can also be lived out beside and shared with others, have suddenly become this cheap thing that isn’t worth the effort or energy anymore and I just don’t understand it. but then again I do.
how could this skewed perception NOT come about as a result of this cheap, impersonal, and shallow world that we live in? if the laws of cause and effect hold up, this had to be the way it’d end.
we mindlessly scroll through a seemingly endless stream of people’s photos, intimate moments of life, and the only attention we’ve got to pay them is or isn’t a double tap on a photo – we don’t have to know more, we don’t get to share in the feelings they had in the moment simply because we don’t have to
we like complete stranger’s posts on facebook and tweets on twitter
we swipe right if she cute, swipe left if she’s not
sex is casual, so casual that if you’re both down you can just do it with someone you know nothing about and blame it on the fact that you had one too many drinks then go your own separate ways come morning
you can get all the pleasure you want from a woman/man on a computer screen without having to even commit in any way, shape, or form. men no longer have to deal with real, emotional women and are free to adopt a cynical attitude towards the real stuff like relationships, marriage, and commitment, therefore destroying all the more their chances at ever desiring real ever again
it’s a rarity to walk into a quiet place like a waiting room at a doctor’s office and not see every single person on their cell phone
it’s also a rarity to even see people conversing because for some reason we’d all rather mindlessly scroll through our social media feeds than actually connect with people
( i am so guilty of that one that it makes me sick with myself ^)
we no longer see any meaningful conversations being had and therefore no meaningful connections being made and with the loss of both eventually comes the loss of any kind of desire for either – and quite frankly that terrifies me..
as a person that thrives on connecting on emotional levels with people, that lives for learning people, that longs for that kind of intimacy – I am scared that any day now I and others like me, humans, won’t be able to find communion, relation and intimacy anymore. I am afraid of living in a world that is made up of 318.9 emotionally detached human beings (and thats just the U.S. – who knows if people actually enjoy conversation in other advanced parts of the world anymore either).
so can we start communing again?
can we start relating again?
can we be real and intimate with each other again?
for my sake and for the world’s sake.
yes it will be hard, yes it will take energy, yes effort will have to be put forth, yes it will require us to step out and reach out, but what better way is there for us to shine lights and be salt than to take the time to initiate conversation with the person sitting next to us – that could drastically increase our chances of changing lives and winning souls.
“A woman of Samaria came to draw water. Jesus said to her, “Give Me a drink.” For His disciples had gone away into the city to buy food.”
Jesus said to her.
and after He said to her, He conversed with her, He loved her, and He ultimately changed the course of her life completely.
what a beautiful exchange to be made and what a beautiful gift. so put the phone down ladies and gentlemen, stop settling for cheap and empty relationships and start desiring real, raw, and authentic communion with the creation and in turn with the Creator.
so come let us engage
let us adore
let us commune
because I am so convinced that those are three gifts this world cannot afford to lose or choose not to receive